A journalist and copywriter with experience with ELLE, Net-A-Porter and Alexandalexa.com
My name is Jack Kavanagh and I work on behalf of a well-known supermarket.
I’m currently working on the supermarket’s magazine on a number of exciting categories from adults and kids fashion, to home and everyday lifestyle.
We would love you to feature you in an upcoming articles that will be published on their online magazine.
If this sounds like something you’d be interested in please let me know..
Hello Jack, could you please email me? Thank you
I don’t want you to contact me after reading this. But I wanted to let you know you won in the end. You got lucky and got out of a shitty situation early. Months later and I still think about how even though he only saw you a handful of times, he would never reply to my texts when he was with you, whereas when we were together he wouldn’t think twice about texting you. Months later and I still drive myself crazy remembering how he lied to my face again and again when I confronted him about you, when I begged him to just tell me the truth.
One time I knew he stayed over night at yours after choir practice… he tried to tell me that he only went over for a chat and didn’t stay the night. That he only “sat atop your duvet” when you texted him the next night saying you would starfish and finally sleep well because he had been pushing you out of your own bed all night. There’s so much more that I shouldn’t forgive him for, so much that doesn’t involve you. So congrats.
I admit I still don’t understand how you thought you had a claim to him… how you could be so irate over him sleeping with someone else… what kind of relationship did you think you had with him?
My biggest problem is that you claim to be a feminist… and yet as white feminist you mocked what I, a woman of colour had written about on a completely unrelated subject about white feminists needing to check their privilege and stop taking away from WOC’s space and speaking over our voices. If you really don’t think white privilege is a thing, then I have nothing else to say. It’s not my job to educate you, especially if you’re not willing to learn. I have, however, linked some helpful articles. It’s your choice whether or not you choose to read them, or if you will just assemble your girlfriends to mock me further.
Either way, I hope we never cross paths or interact again.
I am going to reply to this on here, whether you’ll read it or even care, I don’t know. I know you said not to reply but I don’t think it is fair that you get to have your say and I do not get to have mine. Plus you’ve blocked me on everything, I am assuming because you’re too scared of a response.
I really do hope that you took the same tack that I did and got out of the situation, although the fact that you ran back to him to show him my tweets suggests that you have not. I hope one day that you see what an idiot he is, and a pathological liar.
For starters, it was not a “handful of times”. It was six months. For a lot of that time we were seeing each other once a week. We went on dates, to comedy shows, to the cinema. That is how I think I have a claim to him, it was not a relationship, but it was not a small thing. Maybe to him. I really don’t care anymore.
He lied to me about you too. I asked him in December if he was seeing anyone else, the answer was a straight up no. When you sent me those messages on here a few months ago (of course it was you) he said that it was probably his “psycho ex” and the girl they were referring to “his best friend”. You’re always the best friend in this scenario. He probably said the same to you about me, although more likely I was just his friend. The time he put up that story with your legs in, and claimed there was three of you in bed, and I literally asked him straight up if he was sleeping with you, and he said no.
Then, finally, I saw your instagram post about your 8 months and that is when it all clicked; I literally text him to end it within a minute. His only response was “haha that’s fair, i’m not even going to explain”. I ended it as soon as it became clear he had barefaced lied, and we haven’t been in contact since (except to do the awkward exchange of belongings. And today, when he told me to stop tweeting about “his best friend” (still lying to the bitter end). Thanks for that).
I think that is what gets me most in this scenario. You have a lot of hatred towards me which is understandable to some extent, but I was played the same way you were and I would NEVER have continued if I had known the extent of his relationship with you. I can put hand on heart and say that. I am really not that girl. The anger should be aimed at him, for being an idiot and a manipulator and a liar.
As for the feminism thing, I am not uneducated enough to think that there is not a white privilege in feminism. I know there is and my anger was very misguided at that time and for that I truly am sorry. I was more commenting on the way you expressed it than what you were expressing.
So, there is my two cents. I really hope that you do get out of this shitty situation and leave him with nothing, which is what he deserves.
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